Kiss & Make Up

2 Corinthians 5:18 – “All this is from God, who RECONCILED US to Himself through Christ and GAVE US the ministry of RECONCILIATION.”

As believers we have been healed to be healers, we have been forgiven to forgive, we have been loved to be lovers, we have been reconciled to be reconcilers. Every believer is called to the ministry, the ministry of reconciliation. No one is excluded, that’s how valuable and important you are to the church. So, what does that mean – the ministry of RECONCILIATION? It means that when people hurt us, we keep loving them. Where there is conflict, God expects us to seek reconciliation. It means that when we are offended, wounded, or heartbroken, we choose to forgive and keep loving through the hurt with the heart to reconcile. 

The world and the church are full of people who are estranged from one another. We see siblings who don’t talk to one another, parents who don’t talk to their children. We see people who won’t talk to other people in the church. Someone has offended someone; someone was hurt by someone. So, most of the time instead of seeking reconciliation we simply avoid them. Sometimes we convince ourselves that we must avoid them because we can’t tolerate what they’ve done. But is that fulfilling the call to be a reconciler? This calling to be a reconciler is irrevocable because God called us to it (Romans 11:29). 

How can we deliberately avoid someone when it’s our responsibility to love them? Where would we be if God ignored us when we messed up? John tells us in 1 John 4:20 -“If you don’t love people that you can see, how can you say that you love God, whom you cannot see?”  God loves us through our messes, through our mistakes, and even through our sinful choices. He keeps pursuing us. He keeps offering love in an attempt to bring reconciliation to our relationship. Because that is who He is, so He expects us to do the same with one another. It’s our responsibility to reconcile. 

If you need to be reconciled to someone, take the first step. God took the first step with us, and every step after that – to reconcile with us. Maybe your waiting for them to change, before you will accept them. Is that what God does with us? Absolutely not! He loves us like we’ve never hurt Him or disappointed Him. “While we were still sinners, He died for us” (Romans 5:8). Be the one that makes the first move, step up and be the reconciler that you are called to be. Reconciliation requires us to love as we’ve never been hurt. “Love never fails”(1 Corinthians 13:8). Don’t stop loving. It’s never out of order to love. Sometimes we just need to love – by faith. Because love never fails; love will triumph and bring reconciliation to the relationship. It might take a week, a month or even years but we are responsible, no matter what has been done or said, we are responsible to fulfill our call to the ministry of reconciliation. I know several people who are called to the fivefold ministry (apostle, prophet, evangelist, pastor, teacher – Ephesians 4:11) but have not been able to step into their calling because they have not learned how to fulfill their first calling to be a minister of reconciliation. The MINISTRY OF RECONCILIATION is the most important ministry in the church because that is the predominant characteristic of our Father. Before we can reconcile any relationship, we must first choose to forgive. Reconciliation hinges on forgiveness. Jesus acknowledged this principle from the cross – “Father forgive them, for they don’t know what they are doing” (Luke 23:34). Forgiveness always precedes reconciliation.   

Maybe you’ve been hurt so deeply that you think that you can’t be healed. Our Father is loving and powerful, He can bring healing to every situation. “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds”(Psalm 147:3). God can give you the grace to love and forgive as if you’ve never been hurt. Bring the hurt, the wound, the mess to God. His grace is sufficient. And His love will never fail! 

My prayer for you today is that you will love like you’re loved, forgive like you’ve been forgiven, and become the reconciler that God has called you to be.

Pointing people to Jesus,

Rocky Byers

“On Earth as it is in Heaven!”